by Claralynn Schnell of ContemporaryVA
Reaching true intimacy in marriage seems to be an unattainable task. Every marriage is different and within those marriages there are different struggles, blessings and dynamics. There is no “one size” fits all version of intimacy. Instead, there are basic steps that each couple can take to ensure that even with the hectic schedule of life, that marriage and the intimacy within that union is a priority.
Intimacy is more than just a physical relationship between married couples. Intimacy is probably one of the most misunderstood concepts in relationships. Somewhere down the line intimacy and sex became interchangeable words, many people believing they are one and the same. And while intimacy may include sex, it involves much more. Intimacy encompasses an entire way of being, acting, and thinking. It is a place of commitment, vulnerability, and trust. Intimacy is when both spouses understand each other while simultaneously feeling understood. People can be married for years and never truly be intimate with each other. Intimacy includes an unshakeable trusting foundation that allows for each person to feel safe and secure with their spouse. How do you reach this level of intimacy? Through open honest communication. Through talking and checking in with your spouse. To listening to the things you might not want to hear, to ensure that your marriage stays strong.
Does this sound easier said than done?!! I agree. Marriage is hard and the truth is most marriages do fail. However, the ones that survive and THRIVE are based in the principal that intimacy and trust is the most important factor in the marriage. Keeping your relationship at the front of your priorities is an important step towards reaching this goal. Life can easily get in the way and your marriage can slide in importance! DON’T LET IT! Are you struggling to ensure that your marriage is one of true intimacy? One that you can be proud of? If so, contact Paul and he can help you to reach this intimacy in your marriage.