By Claralynn Schnell of Contemporary VA

Does your anger get the best of you? Are you known by your outbursts? Do people get out of your way because they see the steam rolling out of your eyes and ears?  Controlling your anger is not always the easiest thing to do and an occasional outburst is good and healthy. But when anger becomes your first emotion always or when people avoid you because they are not sure what they will say that will set you off, then you have a problem. It is when your anger takes over, when it is what you are known for that the issue is beyond your control and you need to seek help.

However, it doesn’t always have to get to the breaking point, before you realize that you have a problem.  Ask those around you if they believe you have a problem with your temper and be open to their responses.  Ensure that it is an environment where they can be honest with you.  And take what they have to say to heart.

There are many old standby tricks that actually work really well in controlling your anger and how you react to someone.  First count to ten.  Counting gives you a second to controlling your breathing, slow your heart rate and think clearly.  Those 3 things will save you so much heartache and repentance.

Anger issues cannot be dealt with overnight and will more than likely be a struggle for most of your life.  You will need to rewire how you interact and deal with people.  Once you have figured out your triggers to anger, it will be easier to control and stop those things.  Remembering that the only control you have over someone is how you react to them can be a helpful tool.

If anger is a constant problem in your life and you are looking to make a change, please call Paul.  He is experienced in dealing with anger and how to successful manage anger issues.